I'm just going to get right to the point here: I don't know if we are going to have any more kids.
Brian is very confident that two is a good, solid, strong number for our family. I, on the other hand, just don't know. SO MANY people have told me that I'll "feel done" having kids. Well, I don't "feel done". It's hard for me to think that Maya is my last baby. With that being said, however, and with the whole should we have another baby semi-sorta being out of our control anyway, I have always approached Miss Maya as my last baby because I just don't know what the future holds.
You see, I've been reveling in all things newborn baby and not taking a single one of them for granted. Seriously. I want to remember everything about how it feels to have a brand new baby because, in my opinion, there is nothing better in this world.
I started making a list of all the things that I want to remember while we were at the hospital (
here and
here) with Maya, and have added to it while at home. So many of them I had forgotten about with newborn baby Kate. When Maya gets up in the middle of the night, I am cherishing those one on one moments, knowing that as each day passes that is one day closer to when she won't want as many snuggles.
So, without further ado, here is my list of everything I want to remember so far:
Baby Soft
-There is that expression, "as soft as a baby's bottom". But new babies, you see, are soft all over. From the tops of their heads to the tips of their toes, they are silky, smooth, perfectly soft, and you can't help but snuggle with them at.all.times. I love this feeling.
The Amazement
-New babies have just entered a whole new world, completely unknown to that of the previous womb world they had been living in. I frequently see Maya looking around with big, wide eyes, almost with an amazed look on her face, as she learns about this new world around her. It's incredible to me to think that every single thing is something completely new to her. It really puts a new perspective on things and while this look does appear fearful at times, I still love it and love the way I can easily comfort my brand new babe should she be scared.
The Flutters
-Along with learning about the world around them, new babies are learning how to survive in this new world too. I had completely forgotten about the "fluttered" breathing with new baby Kate. At this hospital, Maya did this quite frequently though she hasn't done it much since day three or so. It's like she takes a breath in, and in, and in again before she realizes that she just needs to let it out, as if you were trying to take a breath while sobbing uncontrollably. It's that whole learning to breathe thing. She does it while she's breastfeeding too and sometimes even takes a moment to look around at this new world. I love this too.
Breastfeeding
-Speaking of breastfeeding, I love being able to provide my baby with perfect nutrients and nourishment for her body. This amazes me and I am so proud of my body for being able to do this. I love breastfeeding and have always had positive experiences with it.
Snuggles
-This may go hand in hand with "Baby Soft" above but brand new babies are perfect for snuggling. I mean, I don't necessarily know that I'll cuddle someone else's brand new baby like I do my own, but my own gets all the snuggles she wants from me and possibly those that she doesn't want! They are just so warm and so soft and curl up so perfectly in the nook of your body. I didn't dare sleep with newborn baby Kate but have several times fallen asleep with newborn baby Maya and slept with her in my arms. I have even taken her out of her bassinet, while she was sleeping, to get a few more snuggles. You see, I am really don't want to miss out if, for some reason, she is my last baby. I love these snuggles.
The Cry
-New babies, at least the two new babies that I have had the experience of birthing, are still finding their voices when they are first born. With that being said, their "cry" is just the sweetest! I remember Kate kind of sounding like a pterodactyl. There was no noise and then out of nowhere was this dinosaur cry. We have nicknamed Maya, Tiger Cub, because her little cry is so dainty and adorable. I wish I had a video of it but I don't think I do. I love this little sound.
Perfection
-I have used this word more than once to describe newborn babies in this post but that is exactly what they are to me: perfect. Every thing about them is just so darling. They are so innocent and pure and ... perfect. I have no other words. I love their newness.
Skin to Skin
-It is so important to provide that skin to skin for new babies and it feels incredible. I feel like skin to skin is so infrequent in the adult world. I mean, other than the intimacy you share with your significant other, there is NO skin to skin with the adult world. But with a new baby, skin to skin is preferred and Maya loves her some skin to skin with her Mommy. I love this.
Kisses
-This probably goes hand in hand with "Baby Soft" and "Snuggles" but the kisses. Oh.My.Word. The kisses. They are the sweetest, softest, gentlest kisses you've ever given and they are amazing. I can't stop kissing that sweet girl of mine and I love it.
The Gentleness
-Everything newborn baby is so gentle. They way you hold them, or move them, or change their diaper, or love on them - it's all so gentle. In a few short months, changing a diaper will be like gator wrestling, but brand new babes have it done gently and it just warms your heart. I love the gentleness.
The Tinyness
-Before we had Maya, Kate was so little to me. But then we had Maya and brought her home and I distinctly remember feeling like Kate was like a 50 lb. sack of potatoes. You forget how teensy tiny new babes are because they just grow so fast. But they are so small, SO SMALL. Their hands and feet and nose and ears and EVERYTHING is just so tiny (and kissable for that matter!). It is truly a wonder. And I love the tinyness.
The Baby Sounds
-Before talking comes cooing and before cooing comes baby sounds. The cooing and baby sounds stages are just so adorable, especially when your babe makes these little noises while just barely sleeping. I mean, seriously. I'm a sucker for some baby sounds. I love them.
The Wriggles
-New babies wriggle sometimes. I'm not sure if they are trying to get comfortable or just stretching from being restricted in the womb for the last few months but they wriggle! And those little moving limbs and head and body are the sweetest. I love the little wriggles of my baby in my arms.
The Yawns
-New baby yawns are the biggest yawns ever. And, for that matter, they are also the cutest, most adorable, and sweetest too. And the fact that they can fall asleep so quickly after letting out one of those big yawns is just heart melting. I mean, yes, I'm in love. Totally, completely, utterly in love.
New Baby Smell
-Brand new babes smell amazing. Everything about them is sweet, even their poo. And I never thought I'd be one to say that I
like the smell of poo. I can't help but keep this little love close to me when I have her in my arms and I love every scent about her newness.
Their Warmth
-How are our wee ones so warm?! Seriously. I'm cold at all times and this little tiny baby of mine is so warm. I suppose this is one of the factors that makes them so snuggly - their bodies are so warm...and soft...and snuggly...and perfect. Getting the gist here?! I love their warmth.
Palmolive Baby
If ever I need to get back to my new baby stage or want a trip down memory lane, I just need a grab a bottle of
this stuff and start washing with it. It takes me right back to my days with Baby Kate and here I am using it again. It is ALL BABY to me and I love that.
I'm sure there will be more things that I want to remember. It's incredible how quickly many of these things change even after your baby is just a few days old. Should Maya be our last baby (it hurts even typing those words), I know that I have truly cherished each and every moment with her.
Perhaps that is one other difference between first time Mommy's and subsequent Mommy's. I remember being up at night with Kate and just hoping that she would fall back asleep soon because I was SO exhausted. This go round, I look forward to my late night/early morning dates with Maya and get kind of bummed when she sleeps for an extended period of time.
Ok, I'm obsessed. She's my baby, and I love her more than I have the words to describe, and I hope being able to look back at this list takes me back to her newborn days. Because, after all, I want to remember everything.
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Snuggling, smelling, kissing, loving on my
sweetest little Maya. |
I love you, sweet baby girl.