Pumpkin. Sweetheart. Honey. Baby.
Some people would argue that terms of endearment are a friendly way to approach people that you don’t know. I, on the other hand, think that terms of endearment should be restricted to close family and friends, and elderly folk.
Let me explain.
I was at Subway getting lunch the other day. The girl behind the counter, who looked like she was in her early twenties, asked me, “what can I get for you, sweetie?” I was taken aback and completely caught off guard. Did this girl just call me sweetie? I lost my train of thought. Now, I know that I may not “look” 29, but I certainly don’t feel like I “look” like I’m 7, and that’s how I feel when someone who appears to be younger than me calls me sweetie.
I stood for a moment while I gathered my thoughts (and my order) together and proceeded telling her what I wanted. I chalked it up to her probably just slipping up. When we got to the veggie section, she asked me, “what sort of veggies would you like, sweetie?” AGAIN! This was no slip up. And when my order was complete, she asked me, “will that be all for you, sweetie?” I was starting to feel violated, and it was very weird to me.
I left and, obviously, could not get the thought out of my head.
When I hear terms of endearment, I feel like they belong to close family and friends, such as a spouse, a child, a pet, etc. They are those words of love and affection that add a little touch of sweetness to your thought. I also feel like older people, as in at least two generations beyond whatever generation you happen to be in, are automatically exempt from my sometimes illogical thought process when it comes to the
terms of the terms of endearment. Elderly people can call anyone by a sweet something. Twenty something year olds cannot. Am I the only one that feels like this?!
In addition, I've noticed people at work addressing one another by 'sweetheart'. It really throws me for a loop. I turn around expecting to see someone embracing their loved one, when what I really see are two coworkers deep in a work related conversation. Am I totally confused? Have I misunderstood the correct time and place for these endearing terms? I don't think so, honey.
For the record, I
am a fan of terms of endearment; I just feel like they belong to certain people, and strangers (and coworkers) are not on that list for me. Unless, of course, it is for a purely sarcastic remark. (Which I rarely partake in...)
So, the next time the girl at Subway feels the need to address her clients by 'sweetie' she may just get a piece of my mind. A nice piece of my mind, of course, and it may change the way she does business. And it may not.
Ain't that right, sugar?!